Book Review: “Lessons in Chemistry”

In this captivating novel, Bonnie Garmus weaves together science, love, and ambition.

The story follows the life of Dr. Elizabeth Zott, a brilliant, gifted research chemist navigating the male-dominated world of academia in the late 1950s and early 1960s who becomes a single mother and a TV cooking show host after being fired from her job at Hastings Research Institute.

As she grapples with her own secrets and desires, she embarks on a journey of self-discovery and scientific breakthroughs with fantastic determination.

Several themes emerge:

  • Gender Equality: The novel delves into the challenges faced by women in STEM fields during an era when their contributions were often overlooked.
  • Passion for Science: The author beautifully captures the excitement and curiosity that drives scientists to explore the unknown.
  • Personal Sacrifices: Dr. Zott’s choices between career and personal life highlight the sacrifices required to pursue one’s dreams.

Writing Style: Garmus’s prose is elegant and evocative, seamlessly blending scientific explanations with emotional depth. The chemistry puns sprinkled throughout add a delightful touch.

According to the author, her inspiration to write Lessons in Chemistry came from her own experience as a woman working in male-dominated fields, as well as her fascination with the history of science and cooking.

She said in an interview with The Guardian: “I wanted to write about a woman who was brilliant at science, but also had a sense of humor and a rebellious streak. I also wanted to show how cooking can be a form of chemistry, and how Elizabeth uses her scientific knowledge to create recipes that are both delicious and educational.”

She also revealed that she did extensive research on the period, the scientific topics, and the culinary trends of the time and that she consulted with experts in chemistry, physics, and food science to make sure her novel was accurate and authentic.

Overall Impression: “Lessons in Chemistry” is thought-provoking and beautifully crafted, celebrating the pursuit of knowledge, love, and resilience. Whether you’re a science enthusiast or simply appreciate well-written fiction, this book is a must-read (without a doubt, it’s the best fiction I’ve read in years, if not the best).

I’ll remember “Chemistry” long after reading it; you may find yourself reassessing your life, your mother’s, and perhaps that of other female relatives (at least in my case, it did). and I now look at cooking in a brand-new light (it’s a delicious, scientific art form; how cool is that?).

I would like to end with the closing words on the final episode of the cooking show “Supper at Six“:

Whenever you start doubting yourself, whenever you feel afraid, just remember. Courage is the root of change-and change is what we’re chemically designed to do. So when you wake up tomorrow, make this pledge. No more holding yourself back. No more subscribing to others’ opinions of what you can and cannot achieve.

and no more allowing anyone to pigeonhole you into useless categories of sex, race, economic status, and religion. Do not allow your talents to lie dormant, ladies. Design your own future. When you go home today, ask yourself what you will change. and then get started.”

And then I’m going to ask each of you to take a moment and recommit. Challenge yourself, ladies. Use the laws of chemistry and change the status quo.”

Why and How Introverts Could Improve a Business

Introverts are often misunderstood and undervalued in the business world. They may be seen as shy, aloof, or uninterested in socializing and networking. However, introverts have many strengths and skills that can benefit a business and its people.

Why Introverts Are Good for Business

They:

Are attentive listeners. Introverts tend to listen more than they talk, which means they can understand the needs, problems, and perspectives of their clients, customers, and colleagues better. They can also provide thoughtful feedback and solutions that are based on careful analysis and reflection.

Are creative thinkers. They enjoy spending time alone with their thoughts, which allows them to generate new ideas, insights, and innovations. They can also approach problems from different angles and find novel ways to solve them.

Are focused and diligent. Introverts can concentrate deeply on their tasks and projects, without being easily distracted by external stimuli or social pressure. They can also work independently and efficiently, without needing constant supervision or guidance.

Are loyal and trustworthy. They value quality over quantity when it comes to relationships. They tend to form strong bonds with a few who share their values and interests. They are also reliable and honest, and they respect the privacy and confidentiality of others.

How Introverts Can Improve Themselves and Others

Leveraging their strengths. Introverts should recognize and embrace their unique talents and abilities, and use them to contribute to their business goals and personal growth. They should also seek opportunities to showcase their work and achievements, without being boastful or arrogant.

Developing their skills. They should challenge themselves to learn new skills and expand their knowledge base, especially in areas relevant to their business or industry. They should also seek feedback from others and use it to improve their performance and results.

Balancing their energy. Introverts should be aware of their energy levels and needs, and take steps to recharge themselves when they feel drained or overwhelmed. They should also respect the energy levels and needs of others, and avoid imposing their preferences or expectations on them.

Communicating effectively. They should communicate clearly and confidently with others, using both verbal and non-verbal cues. They should also adapt their communication style to suit different situations and audiences, such as formal or informal, individual or group, online or offline.

Collaborating productively. Introverts should cooperate with others to achieve common goals and outcomes while respecting the diversity of opinions and perspectives. They should also share their ideas and opinions with others, without being afraid of criticism or rejection.

In Conclusion:

Introverts are valuable assets to any business, as they bring many benefits and advantages to the table. By leveraging their strengths, developing their skills, balancing their energy, communicating effectively, and collaborating productively, introverts can improve themselves and others and positively impact their business (and business colleagues).

Merger or Acquisition: Which is Better?

When it comes to business, which is better, merging or being acquired? This is a question that many entrepreneurs and executives face at some point in their careers. There is no simple answer, as both options have advantages and disadvantages depending on the situation and the goals of the parties involved. Let’s explore some of the main factors that influence this decision and provide some examples of successful and unsuccessful cases.

Merging is when two or more companies combine to form a new entity, usually with a new name and identity. The benefits of merging include:

– Access to new markets, customers, technologies, and resources

– Increased efficiency and economies of scale

– Enhanced innovation and competitiveness

– Shared risks and costs

– Improved reputation and brand recognition

However, merging also involves some challenges, such as:

– Loss of control and autonomy

– Cultural and organizational clashes

– Legal and regulatory hurdles

– Integration difficulties and costs

– Dilution of ownership and value

Being acquired is when one company buys another company, either with cash, stock, or a combination of both. The benefits of being acquired include:

– Receiving a premium price for the company

– Gaining access to the acquirer’s resources and expertise

– Securing a strategic partner or ally

– Exiting the market or industry

– Avoiding bankruptcy or liquidation

However, being acquired also involves some drawbacks, such as:

– Losing independence and identity

– Having to adapt to the acquirer’s culture and policies

– Facing potential layoffs or restructuring

– Losing key employees or customers

– Dealing with legal and regulatory issues

As you can see, both merging and being acquired have pros and cons that need to be carefully weighed before making a decision. Some factors that can help you decide are:

– The vision and mission of your company

– The financial situation and valuation of your company

– The market conditions and competitive landscape

– The compatibility and synergy with the potential partner

– The expectations and interests of your stakeholders

Some examples of successful mergers and acquisitions are:

Disney and Pixar: The entertainment giants merged in 2006 for $7.4 billion, creating a powerhouse of animation and storytelling.

In 2006, Disney acquired Pixar for $7.4 billion, creating one of the most powerful entertainment companies in the world. The deal combined Disney’s distribution and marketing power with Pixar’s creative and technological expertise, resulting in a series of blockbuster animated films such as Toy Story, Finding Nemo, The Incredibles, Up, and Inside Out. The acquisition also strengthened Disney’s position in the streaming market, as Pixar’s content is now available on Disney+.

Other examples include:

Google and YouTube: The tech giant acquired the video-sharing platform in 2006 for $1.65 billion, expanding its reach and influence in the online world.

Exxon and Mobil: The oil giants merged in 1999 for $81 billion, forming the largest energy company in the world.

Some examples of unsuccessful mergers and acquisitions are:

AOL and Time Warner: The media giants merged in 2000 for $164 billion, but failed to integrate their businesses and cultures, resulting in huge losses and a split in 2009.

HP and Autonomy: The tech giant acquired the software company in 2011 for $11 billion, but later accused it of fraud and wrote off $8.8 billion of its value.

Daimler-Benz and Chrysler: The automakers merged in 1998 for $36 billion, but faced cultural clashes and operational issues, leading to a “divorce” in 2007.

In 1998, Daimler-Benz, the German maker of Mercedes-Benz cars, merged with Chrysler, the American automaker, in a $36 billion deal that was hailed as a “merger of equals“. However, the deal soon turned sour, as the two companies faced cultural clashes, strategic disagreements, and financial losses. Daimler-Benz was accused of treating Chrysler as a subsidiary rather than a partner, and Chrysler struggled to compete with rivals such as Toyota and Honda. In 2007, Daimler sold 80% of Chrysler to a private equity firm for $7 billion, ending one of the most disastrous mergers in history.

In conclusion, merging or being acquired is not a simple choice, but a complex strategic decision that requires careful analysis and planning. There is no one-size-fits-all answer, as each case is unique and depends on various factors. The key is to find the best option that aligns with your vision, values, goals, and interests.

Starting and Marketing a Business with No Money

Starting a business with no money is challenging, but it’s not impossible. Here are some tips to help you get started:

  1. Keep your day job: If you have a full-time job, it’s best to keep it while starting your business. This will give you a steady income while you’re building your business.
  2. Choose a low-cost business model: Consider starting a service-based business that doesn’t require a lot of upfront capital. For example, you could start a dog-walking or pet-sitting business if you love animals 
  3. Network: Connect with industry professionals, potential investors, and other entrepreneurs. Attend networking events and join online communities to meet people who can help you grow your business 
  4. Create a solid business plan: A well-written business plan can help you secure funding and attract investors. It should include details about your target market, competition, marketing strategy, and financial projections 
  5. Crowdfund: Crowdfunding is a great way to raise money for your business without taking on debt. You can use platforms like Kickstarter or Indiegogo to raise funds from people who believe in your idea 
  6. Use free resources: Many free resources can help you start and grow your business. For example, the Small Business Administration (SBA) offers free online courses and workshops on topics such as marketing, finance, and management 

Marketing a Business with No Money

If you have little or no money to invest in marketing, there are still some effective ways to promote your business without spending a fortune. Here are a few ideas:

1. Create a website or a blog. A website or a blog is a great way to showcase your products or services, share your story, and attract potential customers. You can use free platforms like WordPress, Wix, or Squarespace to create a professional-looking website or blog in minutes. You can also use SEO (search engine optimization) techniques to improve your ranking on Google and other search engines.

2. Use social media. Social media is a powerful tool for reaching and engaging your target audience. You can use platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter (now X), LinkedIn, or Pinterest to share valuable content, interact with your followers, and build trust and credibility. You can also join relevant groups, forums, or communities where you can offer advice, answer questions, and showcase your expertise.

3. Create an email list. Email marketing is one of the most effective ways to communicate with customers and prospects. You can use free tools like Mailchimp, Constant Contact, or AWeber to create and send newsletters, promotions, updates, or tips. You can also offer incentives like discounts, freebies, or e-books to encourage people to sign up for your email list.

4. Ask for referrals. Word-of-mouth is one of the most powerful forms of marketing. You can ask your existing customers, friends, family, or network to refer your business to others interested in your products or services. You can also offer rewards or incentives for referrals, such as discounts, coupons, or gift cards.

5. Collaborate with others. Another way to market your business with no money is to partner with other businesses or influencers who have a similar or complementary audience. You can exchange products or services, cross-promote each other on social media or email, or co-create content or events. This way, you can leverage each other’s reach and exposure and create value for both parties.

Did You Know That (Science)…..

The connection between science and business is not always obvious, but it is crucial for innovation and progress. Science provides the knowledge and methods to discover new possibilities, while business provides the resources and incentives to turn them into reality. Together, they can create solutions for the challenges of today and tomorrow.

However, the connection between science and business is not always smooth or easy. There are many barriers and gaps that hinder the collaboration and communication between scientists and entrepreneurs. For example, they may have different goals, values, languages, cultures, or expectations. They may also face legal, ethical, or social issues that complicate their work.

Therefore, it is important to foster a culture of mutual understanding and respect between science and business. This can be done by creating platforms and networks that facilitate the exchange of ideas and information, by providing training and education that enhance the skills and competencies of both parties and by promoting a shared vision and mission that align their interests and values.

One way to illustrate the connection between science and business is to look at some examples of successful partnerships that have emerged in recent years. For instance, the collaboration between IBM and the Broad Institute of MIT and Harvard has led to the development of new tools and methods for genomic research and precision medicine. Another example is the partnership between Google and NASA, which has enabled the exploration of quantum computing and artificial intelligence. These are just some of the many examples that show how science and business can work together for the common good.

In conclusion, the connection between science and business is vital for the advancement of science and technology, as well as for the benefit of society and the environment. By overcoming the challenges and leveraging the opportunities that arise from this connection, we can create a better future for ourselves and for generations to come. With that being said, here are some scientific/business facts and observations to ponder over.

To produce knowledge using the scientific method you need to:

1. Observe the world around you.

2. Ask a question about what you see.

3. Construct a hypothesis that could answer your question.

4. Think of a way to test your hypothesis.

5. Run experiments to see if your hypothesis’s prediction was correct.

6. Draw a conclusion from your experiments.

7. Communicate your results.

8. Refine, alter, or reject your hypothesis.

Now the scientific method can produce wrong knowledge, BUT this is still our best technology for uncovering, verifying, and refining correct knowledge because the scientific method allows us to make wrong knowledge gradually more correct.

Beavers excrete a substance called castoreum (this name came about because people thought male beavers bit off their own testicles, therefore castrating themselves. Not true) to mark their territory. Castoreum contains salicin, which is an anti-inflammatory agent in humans, and it can also be used as an analgesic. Castoreum also happens to smell like vanilla-and because of this very reason beaver juice was first added to mass-produced food in the 20th century under the phrase “natural flavoring.”

Beavers used to be the size of bears! (in North America; they died out (the bear-sized ones) around 10,000 BCE (Before the Common Era).

Which came first, the chicken or the egg? There’s a clear answer: The egg came first, as eggs evolved in other animals millions of years before chickens ever appeared. The first chicken egg also came first. Inside the first chicken egg was a zygote with a mutation that made it the first chicken. This particular egg was laid by a proto-chicken, which in turn descended from dinosaurs. It kind of makes you look at a chicken with new respect, doesn’t it?

How to Broadly Classify Trees

Hardwood generally comes from slow-growing trees with broad leaves. Some examples: 

Oak

Maple

Walnut

Softwood generally comes from fast-growing evergreen trees with needles, cones, and sap. Some examples are:

Spruce

Pine

Cedar

Hollow drinking vessels, first produced in the 1500s CE (Common Era) are now so synonymous with glass that if you’re thirsty, you’ll ask for “a glass of water.”

The wheel was actually invented for the purpose of spinning clay into various bowl shapes.

The idea of washing hands with soap and water was first proposed by Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis in 1847 CE. While working at two maternity clinics, one with midwife students, and the other with medical students who performed autopsies before assisting in births, all while never washing their hands. As a result, the med clinic mothers became stricken with severe vaginal infections, causing death, as much as 30 percent (5 percent at the midwife clinic). Dr. Semmelweis thereupon introduced a hand-washing routine (death rates dropped to 1 percent at both clinics). Unfortunately, at the time, disease causes were considered unique to each patient, and there was the prevailing notion that disease could be prevented simply by washing hands totally extreme. Dr. Semmelweis was therefore dismissed from the two clinics. The doctor wrote letters to other doctors advocating his hand-washing routine; when that failed, he wrote new letters denouncing them as murderers. For his efforts, the doctor was committed to an insane asylum in 1865, then died 14 days later from an infected wound he contracted after being beaten by guards. Dr. Semmelweis’s hands-washing idea didn’t gain acceptance until twenty years after he died. Today, the way humans can quickly and almost reflexively reject information that contradicts their established beliefs (does this sound familiar regarding current times?) is called the Semmelweis reflex.

There are many diseases that were much more deadly in the past than today (the more severe strains tend to kill their hosts before they can spread and therefore die out, leaving only the less-fatal strains to survive). For example, when syphilis first appeared, the entire human body became covered in pustules, then flesh would fall from the face.

Birthing forceps are a pair of detachable tongs with curved edges that can grab things inside the body. They’re particularly useful during a difficult or obstructed birth; the curved edges can be positioned around a baby’s head, used to rotate, and then gently remove a baby from the birth canal. Birthing forceps were invented in the 1500s CE BUT were kept secret for generations, over 150 years (!) because the family of the inventor (the men) wanted to personally profit and bring the entire midwife profession under their control. What was publicly known was that the Chamberlen family had a secret device that could help in childbirth. The Chamberlen men would bring the forceps into birthing rooms in a sealed box, kicking everyone out of the room except for the mother, who was even blindfolded. But once the secret leaked (because eventually, it did), forceps were commonly used and a standard until cesarean sections became safer in the 1900s CE. 

Movable type existed in China around 1040 CE, but it really took off when the technology reached Europe a few centuries later, due to another innovation: the alphabet. No printer would have only 26 different characters, however; printers would store multiple copies of each character in compartmentalized wooden boxes-“type cases“-where they would be kept alongside punctuation, spaces, and other characters. Capital letters would traditionally be stored in a separate case on the top: the origin of calling them “uppercase” and “lowercase” letters.

A shade of yellow called “Indian yellow” was once made by feeding cows only mango leaves. They became so malnourished their urine turned a bright yellow.

A favorite shade in 1600s Europe was called “mummy brown.” It was made by grinding up ancient mummies (feline and human) to paint with their remains.

The color purple’s long association with royalty also originates in purple pigments being extremely expensive; at certain points in time, some were worth their weight in silver.

For many years, Europe, India, and China used the miasma theory; the idea that disease is caused and carried by bad smells. For example, in London after the city’s cholera epidemics and the “Great Stink” of 1858 (warm weather caused the untreated human waste floating in the Thames to smell even worse than usual. The city’s existing waste disposal system consisted of everyone just “dumping” their pee and poop into the streets or nearby cesspools). The city decided to invest in sewers to move the smelly water away from the city. This was to be a marked improvement; not only were the smells reduced or totally gotten rid of, but people’s health vastly improved. It was only after the sewer was completed that people realized the smells didn’t carry disease, germs did. London’s dramatic and very expensive sewer system is still in use today (certainly hope so!) was actually constructed for the wrong reasons and just so happened to improve public health by accident.

In August 1767, one of the earliest efforts of CPR (cardiopulmonary resuscitation) was “The Society of the Recovery of Drowned Persons,” founded by citizens in Amsterdam, Holland/The Netherlands. The group experimented with various techniques to help drowned people recover. These included:

Warming the victim

Positioning the head lower than the feet to remove water

Tickling the victim’s throat

Using bellows to force tobacco smoke into the victim’s anus (is this where the saying “blowing smoke up my butt” originates? Please Note: I just looked this up and it seems that the phrase may have started in the mid-1960s and has no connection to the abovementioned former medical practice. Oh well).

Bloodletting

Blowing into the victim’s mouth

Even today, cello, harp, and violin players will still choose to use strings made from sheep intestines. Say it isn’t so!

Source: “How to Invent Everything: A Survival Guide for the Stranded Time Traveler” by Ryan North, 2018

Currently Seeking Employment and Summer’s Last Days

Job hunting in 2023 can be a daunting task, especially with the rapid changes in the economy, technology, and society. However, there are some tips and strategies that can help you land your dream job, not only for this year but also in 2024 (and beyond). Here are some of them:

Update your resume and portfolio. Make sure they showcase your skills, achievements, and personality in a clear and concise way. Use keywords and phrases that match the job description and the industry you are applying for. Include links to your online presence, such as your website, blog, social media accounts, or online courses.

Network online and offline. Connect with people who work in your field of interest, or who can refer you to potential employers. You can use LinkedIn, Twitter, or Clubhouse to find and join relevant communities, events, and conversations. You can also attend virtual or in-person career fairs, workshops, or webinars to learn new skills and meet new contacts.

Research the company and the role. Before you apply for a job, do some background research on the company, its culture, values, and goals. Find out what they are looking for in a candidate, what their expectations and challenges are, and how you can add value to their team. Prepare some questions to ask during the interview that show your interest and enthusiasm.

Practice your interview skills. Whether it is a phone, video, or face-to-face interview, you need to be ready to impress the hiring manager with your confidence, communication, and problem-solving skills. Practice answering common and behavioral questions, using the STAR method (Situation, Task, Action, Result) to provide specific examples of your accomplishments. Dress professionally, smile, and maintain eye contact throughout the interview.

Follow up and stay positive. After the interview, send a thank-you note to the interviewer, expressing your appreciation and reiterating your interest in the job. Keep in touch with them until you hear back, but don’t be too pushy or impatient. If you don’t get the job, don’t take it personally or give up. Learn from the feedback, improve your skills, and apply for other opportunities.

Staying in a Positive Mood

 1. Pamper yourself for each small step or accomplishment.

 2. Make a daily to-do list; it’ll really keep you organized.

 3. Discover your best functioning time (Some people are better in the morning, while others are mid-day or night folks.)

 4. Always try to plan ahead; lay out the next day’s clothes and fix lunches the night before.

  5. Keep frequently used numbers on your phone or with you, to save time looking them up.

  6. Try to break up large projects into smaller, manageable parts.

 7. If you have several places to go, try to go to them by location in order to avoid backtracking.

  8. If you think that you’ll be waiting for a while, bring a book, or a set of word puzzles; you can also try to catch up on your bills, school, or work projects. (if they’re online, bring a tablet or laptop with you and make sure the battery’s at full power, so you won’t have to worry about finding a cord outlet for plugging in!)

Enjoying the Last Days of Summer

I hope that everyone’s summer has been great.
And I hope that you were able to do the following: a few simple but essential things (mostly inexpensive or free) for an enjoyable season.
If you haven’t yet, it’s not too late!

1. VISIT A FARMER’S MARKET-Besides the obvious health benefits of fresh fruit
and veggies, there’s just something special and fun about buying from an
open-air place, isn’t it?
In some major cities, farmer’s markets are often held in large buildings that
remind me of airplane hangars. Besides fruit and veggies, there are also
breathtaking and endless varieties of fresh meat, seafood, fresh pastries,
cheese, beverages, and at least a few food items that you don’t see regularly
or have never heard of.
You can have a tasty lunch, snack, or even free samples while you’re shopping
or looking around. Even if you don’t buy a thing, you’ll never be bored (Many
people take their kids, other relatives, or friends along and make a day’s event
out of it).
What a treat!

2. APPRECIATE NATURE-Now I’m not saying to go out and jog when it’s 90
degrees (or higher). When the temperature’s comfortable and weather
permitting, you should take full advantage of the great outdoors (Because
winter will be here soon enough). Go to your local park and walk in it. Go to the
beach and swim; walk on the sand or along the shore. Build a sandcastle. At
least once this summer, be by a large body of water like a lake, ocean, river,
pond, waterfall and “soak” up the atmosphere.
Inhale the smell of fresh-cut grass; run barefoot on it (Those of you with dogs
may want to disregard this-or run very carefully).

3. HAVE SOME ICE CREAM, AND/OR-Partake of an ice slushy (slushie?), iced tea, or those fantastic fruit bars (the strawberry ones by the Outshine brand are outstanding). Go on a picnic; you can get your fill of nature, cool off AND eat summer food too!

4.  HAVE A SUMMER ADVENTURE-Do something or go someplace memorable
that you’ll treasure forever. If you’re on a budget, attend a free outdoor festival
(Bring your own food or snacks to save money) or concert in the park.

5. READ A BOOK-And a paperback or two. Read for the sheer joy of it, to relax,
or to relearn something you forgot. Seriously, reading ANYTIME promotes
good brain health.

Here Comes the Bride, Part 2: Current Wedding Trends and Private Vows

  • If you are planning a wedding this year, you might be wondering what are some of the current trends that can make your big day stand out, and what are some of the outdated ones that you should avoid.
  • Here are some of the latest wedding trends for colors, decor, fashion, and more, as well as some of the wedding traditions that are losing popularity.
  • Current Wedding Trends for 2023
  • Relaxed luxury: Many couples are opting for a more laid-back vibe for their weddings, without compromising on style and elegance. This means less fuss about the traditions and more fun with the details. Think cocktail-style parties, food trucks, live music, and personalized touches that reflect your personality and story.
  • – ‘Otherworldlydomestic destinations: If you want to have a destination wedding without traveling too far, you can choose from many breathtaking and unique locations in the US that will make you feel like you are in a different world. From the desert landscapes of Arizona and Utah to the tropical islands of Hawaii and Florida, there are plenty of options to suit your taste and budget.
  • Zen theme: The Zen theme is about simplicity and harmony, and it is perfect for couples who want to have a peaceful and mindful wedding. The Zen theme incorporates elements of nature, such as greenery, flowers, water, and wood, as well as soothing colors, such as white, beige, and gray. You can also add some candles, incense, or crystals to create a relaxing atmosphere.
  • Pearls everywhere: Pearls are making a comeback in 2023, not only as jewelry but also as accessories and decor. Pearls are timeless and elegant, and they can add a touch of glamour to any wedding. You can wear pearls as earrings, necklaces, bracelets, or hair clips, or you can use them to embellish your dress, shoes, bouquet, cake, or invitations.
  • Unusual color trends: If you want to break away from traditional wedding colors, you can experiment with some of the unusual color trends that are emerging in 2023. Some of the colors that are gaining popularity are lilac, sage green, mustard yellow, coral, and navy blue. These colors can add some freshness and vibrancy to your wedding palette.
  • Outdated Wedding Trends and Their Better Replacements
  • Custom signage: While some wedding signs are useful and informative, such as those that indicate the menu or the seating chart, others are unnecessary and overdone. For example, signs that say “Welcome to our wedding” or “You are the bride/groom” are redundant and take up space. Instead of having too many signs at your wedding, you can opt for a more personal touch, such as greeting your guests with a drink or a hug.
  • Meaningless favors: Many wedding favors end up being left behind or thrown away by the guests because they are either not useful or not memorable. Instead of spending money on generic favors that nobody wants, you can invest in your guests’ experience instead. For example, you can offer them a photo booth, a dessert bar, or a live performance that they will enjoy and remember.
  • Traditional guest books: Guest books are often overlooked or ignored by guests at weddings because they are boring or inconvenient. Instead of having a plain guest book that nobody signs, you can have a more creative and interactive alternative. For example, you can have a Polaroid camera that guests can use to take pictures and write messages on them, or you can have a voicemail box that guests can use to record their wishes.
  • Bouquet and garter toss: These wedding traditions are considered outdated and awkward by many couples and guests alike. They interrupt the flow of the party and put pressure on single people to participate. Instead of throwing your bouquet or garter to the crowd, you can do something more meaningful with them. For example, you can give your bouquet to someone special, such as your mother or grandmother, or you can donate your garter to a charity.
  • I hope these trends have given you some inspiration and guidance for planning your wedding in 2023. Remember that the most important thing is to have a wedding that reflects your personality and values, and that makes you and your guests happy.
  • Private Wedding Vows
  • Did you know that private wedding vows have become very popular?
  • According to The Knot, a premier wedding planning resource, there are several reasons for private vows:
  • Shyness or dislike of being “front and center
  • Desire to speak in one’s native language
  • Don’t want to censor thoughts or words
  • The desire for a totally personal and quiet moment before all the “hullabaloo” starts
  • I also think it’s a good idea to mention marriage expectations, realistic ones that can and will serve as a solid blueprint (I’ve personally never liked the traditional vows; there’s a creepiness to them and it doesn’t favor women, in my humble opinion).
  • The expectations don’t necessarily have to be part of the vows, but I do think it’s very important to have a real heart-to-heart talk about what the two parties involved want or would like to occur.  To be honest, this could result in canceling the marriage, but it may be better than being or feeling trapped in one, looking for any way out. 
  • Are one or both of you seeking some (or total) financial security?
  • Do you both really want children? Or is one really “on the fence” about it?
  • Does one of you really hate the other’s relatives?
  • Do you both have compatible sex drives? 
  • Are you both truly capable of dealing with having to look at and deal with the day-to-day presence of each other?
  • And, when it comes to “in sickness and in health“, are you both truly aware of what this means? If one of you develops a serious health disability, will the other be truly capable and willing to “go the distance” for and with you? (Because many can’t or won’t). Taking care of a seriously ill person is a lot of work and takes sacrifice; I know this personally. 
  • You may laugh, but I truly believe these have to be taken into consideration; romantic love will only go so far. 

Here Comes the Bride, Part I: Financing a Dream Wedding

Weddings are one of the most important and memorable events in a person’s life. They are also one of the most expensive. According to a recent survey by The Knot (a wedding planning and resource site), the average cost of a wedding in the United States in 2022 was $28,000. This does not include the cost of the honeymoon, which can add another $4,000 to $5,000. 

So how do couples finance their dream weddings? There are many options available, such as saving up, borrowing from family or friends, taking out a personal loan, using credit cards, or crowdfunding. Each option has its pros and cons, and couples should carefully weigh them before making a decision.

Saving up is the most traditional and recommended way to pay for a wedding. It allows couples to avoid debt and interest charges, and to have more control over their budget. However, saving up can also take a long time and require a lot of discipline and sacrifice. Couples may have to postpone their wedding date or cut down on other expenses to save enough money.

Borrowing from family or friends is another common way to finance a wedding. It can be a great option if the lenders are willing and able to lend money without expecting repayment or interest. It can also strengthen the bond between the couple and their loved ones. However, borrowing from family or friends can also create tension and resentment if there are misunderstandings or disagreements about the terms of the loan. It can also put pressure on the couple to please their lenders or to repay them as soon as possible.

Taking out a personal loan is another option for couples who need a large amount of money in a short time. Personal loans are usually unsecured, meaning they do not require collateral. They also have fixed interest rates and repayment terms, which can make them easier to manage than credit cards. However, personal loans can also be hard to qualify for, especially for those with low credit scores or high debt-to-income ratios. They can also have high-interest rates and fees, which can increase the total cost of the wedding.

Using credit cards is another option for couples who want to pay for their wedding expenses over time. Credit cards are convenient and flexible, and they can offer rewards or cash back for purchases. They can also help improve credit scores if used responsibly. However, credit cards can also be very risky, especially if the balance is not paid off in full every month. Credit cards have variable interest rates, which can change depending on the market conditions or the card issuer’s policies. They can also have late fees, over-limit fees, and other charges that can add up quickly.

Crowdfunding is a relatively new way to finance a wedding. Crowdfunding involves raising money from a large number of people online, usually through platforms like GoFundMe or Kickstarter. Crowdfunding can be a creative and fun way to involve guests and supporters in the wedding planning process. It can also help cover unexpected costs or emergencies that may arise during the wedding. However, crowdfunding can also be seen as tacky or inappropriate by some people, especially if the couple is perceived as being able to afford the wedding themselves. It can also be unreliable, as there is no guarantee that the fundraising goal will be met or that the donors will receive anything in return.

As you can see, there are many ways to finance a current wedding, each with its own advantages and disadvantages. The best option for each couple depends on their personal preferences, financial situation, and wedding goals. Whatever option they choose, they should always plan ahead, set a realistic budget, and stick to it.

Unique Wedding Ideas

  • Have a minimal bouquet. Instead of carrying a large and heavy bouquet of flowers, opt for a simple and elegant nosegay or Biedermeier bouquet that showcases your modern style. You can also choose flowers that match your wedding theme or colors.
  •  – Take song requests from your guests. When you send out your invitations, ask your guests to write down their favorite song on the RSVP card or email it to you. Then, compile all the song requests into a playlist and give it to your DJ or band. This way, you can ensure that everyone will enjoy the music and dance the night away.
  •  – If you need something blue for your wedding, why not dress your flower girl in a blue dress or outfit? This will add a pop of color and charm to your wedding party, especially if you pair it with a flower crown or a basket of petals. 
  • Create a custom perfume or cologne for your wedding day. If you want to smell amazing and unique on your wedding day, you can create your own perfume or cologne with the help of a professional perfumer. You can choose the scents that suit your personality and preferences, and even name your fragrance after your wedding date or theme. You can also give mini bottles of your perfume or cologne as favors to your guests. 
  • If you want to have a lasting and artistic souvenir of your wedding day, you can hire a live painter to paint your ceremony or reception as it happens. You can watch the painting come to life as you enjoy your celebration and then take it home as a beautiful keepsake. You can also display the painting at your reception for your guests to admire. 
  • Serve donuts instead of cake. If you are not a fan of traditional wedding cake, you can serve donuts instead. Donuts are delicious, versatile, and easy to customize. You can choose different flavors, toppings, and shapes for your donuts, and arrange them in a tower, a wall, or a display. You can also have a donut bar where your guests can create their own donuts with various sauces and sprinkles.
  •  – Have a silent disco at your reception. If you want to have a fun and unique wedding reception, you can have a silent disco where everyone wears wireless headphones and listens to their own music. You can have different channels for different genres of music, and let your guests switch between them as they please. This way, you can avoid noise complaints, cater to different musical tastes, and create a memorable experience for everyone.
  •  – Hire an ice cream truck or cart for dessert. If you want to cool down and treat your guests on a hot summer day, you can hire an ice cream truck or cart for dessert. You can choose from various flavors and types of ice cream, such as gelato, sorbet, soft serve, or frozen yogurt. You can also have toppings and cones for your guests to customize their ice cream. This will add a touch of nostalgia and fun to your wedding day. 
  • Have an interactive guest book. Instead of having a traditional guest book where your guests sign their names and leave messages, you can have an interactive guest book where they can participate in different activities. For example, you can have a Polaroid camera where they can take pictures and stick them on a board with their notes, or a puzzle where they can write on the pieces and assemble them together, or a globe where they can mark their favorite destinations or places they want to visit with you. This will make your guest book more personal and engaging. 
  • Have a fireworks display at the end of the night. If you want to end your wedding day with a bang, you can have a fireworks display at the end of the night. You can coordinate the fireworks with your wedding colors, theme, or music, and create a spectacular show for your guests. You can also have sparklers for your guests to hold and wave as they watch the fireworks. This will make your wedding day unforgettable and magical.

Barbie at Work

Barbie has always been ahead of her time, breaking barriers and stereotypes with her diverse and ambitious professions. She first became an astronaut in 1965, four years before Neil Armstrong walked on the moon. She was a surgeon in 1973 when few women were applying to medical school. She was a CEO in 1985, just as women began to enter the C-suite. And she ran for president in 1992, before any female candidate ever made it onto the presidential ballot.

Barbie has also explored many creative and cultural fields, such as fashion designer, artist, musician, photographer, and film director. She has been a ballerina, a circus performer, a rock star, and a game show host. She has traveled the world and learned about different cultures and languages. She has also been a teacher, a journalist, a veterinarian, a firefighter, and a pilot.

Barbie’s career line reinforces her purpose to inspire the limitless potential in every girl. She recognizes girl-relevant careers in which women are traditionally underrepresented, such as STEM fields. In recent years, she has been a computer engineer, a video game developer, a Mars explorer, and a robotics engineer. She also collaborates with influential women who are making a difference in their fields, such as National Geographic explorers, NASA scientists, and Olympic athletes.

Barbie’s careers are not only fun and exciting but also educational and empowering. They show girls that they can be anything they want to be and that they can make a positive impact on the world. Barbie’s careers are a reflection of her evolution as a doll and as a cultural icon. She is not just a toy, but a symbol of female empowerment and possibility.

Some of Barbie’s OccupationsTraditional and Unusual

  • The first Career Barbie was Fashion Designer Barbie, released in 1960. She came with a sketch pad, a pencil, and a dress form with fabric and pins, although the first Barbie from I959 was referred to as a Teenage Fashion Model.
  • In 1973, Barbie joined the U.S. Army as a medic, with a green uniform, red cross, and carrying a first aid kit.
  • In 1975, Barbie became a professional tennis player (white tennis dress with a matching visor and racket).
  • I980-Barbie became an aerobics instructor. She wore a pink leotard with leg warmers and a headband.
  • In 1986, Barbie was a veterinarian, with a white coat, a stethoscope, and three animal patients: a dog, a cat, and a bird.
  • In 1996, Barbie became an Olympic gymnast, wearing a red, white, and blue leotard, with a gold medal.
  • I998-Barbie was an archaeologist. She wore khaki pants, a brown jacket, and a hat, with a map, a shovel, and a dinosaur skeleton.
  • 2000-Rapper Barbie debuted. She wore baggy jeans, a crop top, and a gold chain, with a microphone and speakers.
    • 2002-There was art teacher Barbie; she wore a denim skirt, a colorful blouse, and an apron. She came with an easel, paints, brushes, and canvases.
  • In 2004, Barbie became a Sea World trainer. She wore a blue wetsuit and came with three dolphins.
  • In 2006, Barbie became an architect. She wore black pants, a white shirt, and glasses. She came with blueprints, a ruler, and models of buildings.
  • 2008-anchorwoman Barbie debuted (pink suit with a microphone). This Barbie also came with a camera and a TV screen.
  • 20I0-There was FBI agent Barbie, with black pants, a black jacket, and sunglasses. She also came with handcuffs, a badge, and a gun.
  • In 2012, Barbie became an entrepreneur (jeans, a blazer, and heels). She came with a laptop, a smartphone, and a briefcase.
  • 20I4-Eye Doctor Barbie debuted. She wore glasses, scrubs, and white shoes and came with an eye chart, glasses frames, and lenses.
  • In 2016, Barbie became the President again (and also the Vice President). She wore matching suits with her running mate (another Barbie doll) and came with American flags.
  • additional Barbie “work” includes:
  • an Executive ‘Career Girl’-I963
  • Business Executive-I999
  • Computer Engineer-20I0
  • UNICEF ambassador-I989
  • Marine Corps Sergent-I992
  • Paleontologist-I997
  • American Idol winner-2005
  • Sea World Trainer-2009
  • artic Rescuer-20I2
  • Desert Storm medic
  • Canadian Mountie
  • Cat Burglar
  • International Space Station astronaut-2022
  • Panda Caretaker and Rescuer-20I4 and 2022
  • a Showgirl
  • Chicken Farmer-20I9
  • Game Show Host-I987
  • TV Chef
  • Game Developer-20I6
  • Robotics Engineer-20I8
  • Food Truck Operator-2020
  • Tina Turner-2008
  • Elton John-I997
  • Elvis-20II
  • Frank Sinatra-202I
  • David Bowie
  • Boxer
  • Miss America
  • and Mars Explorer, among many others
  • Did You Know That…..
  • In I986, Mattel tried to introduce a Barbie clothing line for real girls from 7-I4 years old.
  • The slogan was “We Girls Can Do Anything.” The clothes were marketed in stores like J.C.Penney and K-Mart, but it didn’t work.
  • Did You Know That Source: “What a Doll” from Uncle John’s 4-Ply Bathroom Reader by The Bathroom Readers’ Institute, 2003.

What Type of Entrepreneur Are You?-Part 2

If you are interested in starting your own business, you might wonder what kind of entrepreneur you are, and how your zodiac sign influences your style and approach.

In Part 2, I’ll explore the characteristics of the last six and how they relate to entrepreneurship. I will also provide some examples of famous entrepreneurs for inspiration.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Libra entrepreneurs are diplomatic, cooperative, and fair-minded. They value harmony and balance in their business dealings, and they are good at building relationships and partnerships. Libra entrepreneurs are also creative and artistic, and they can come up with innovative solutions and products. However, they may struggle with indecision and procrastination, as they tend to weigh all the pros and cons before making a move. They may also avoid confrontation and conflict, which can make them appear passive or weak.

Some examples of Libra entrepreneurs are Kim Kardashian (KKW Beauty and SKIMS), Ralph Lauren (founder of the fashion brand that bears his name), Mark Cuban (owner of the Dallas Mavericks NBA team and co-founder of Broadcast.com; also, a “Shark Tank” investor), and Barbara Corcoran (real estate mogul and also a “Shark Tank” investor).

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Scorpio entrepreneurs are passionate, determined, and resourceful. They have a strong will and a clear vision of what they want to achieve, and they are not afraid to take risks or face challenges. Scorpio entrepreneurs are also loyal, trustworthy, and secretive, and they protect their business interests and assets fiercely. However, they may be too intense and obsessive, as they tend to get emotionally involved in their work and have a hard time letting go. They may also be suspicious and jealous, which can make them paranoid or manipulative.

Some examples of Scorpio entrepreneurs are Bill Gates (co-founder of Microsoft), Hillary Clinton (former First Lady, New York senator, Secretary of State, and founder of Onward Together), Katy Perry (Katy Perry Collections), Marie Forleo (founder of B-School and host of MarieTV), and SeanDiddy” or”P. DiddyCombs (Rapper, actor, producer, and founder of Bad Boy Entertainment).

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sagittarius entrepreneurs are optimistic, adventurous, and enthusiastic. They have a positive outlook and a sense of humor, and they enjoy learning new things and exploring new opportunities. Sagittarius entrepreneurs are also generous and honest, and they share their knowledge and resources with others. However, they may be too restless and impulsive, as they tend to jump from one idea to another without finishing what they started. They may also be careless and irresponsible, which can make them unreliable or reckless.

Some examples of Sagittarius entrepreneurs are Walt Disney (The Walt Disney Company), Taylor Swift (singer/songwriter and founder of Taylor Swift Productions), and Steven Spielberg (Amblin Entertainment),

Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Capricorn entrepreneurs are ambitious, practical, and disciplined. They have a long-term vision and a realistic plan, and they work hard and diligently to achieve their goals. Capricorn entrepreneurs are also responsible and reliable, and they deliver on their promises and commitments. However, they may be too conservative and rigid, as they tend to stick to the rules and the status quo without taking any risks or trying anything new. They may also be pessimistic and cynical, which can make them dull or boring.

Some examples of Capricorn entrepreneurs are Jeff Bezos (founder of Amazon and owner of The Washington Post), Michelle Obama (former First Lady, best-selling author, and co-founder of Higher Ground Productions), and Howard Schultz (former CEO of Starbucks and founder of the Schultz Family Foundation).

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Aquarius entrepreneurs are innovative, original, and independent. They have a unique perspective and a visionary approach, and they are not afraid to challenge the norms or break the rules. Aquarius entrepreneurs are also friendly and humanitarian, and they care about social causes and the greater good. However, they may be too eccentric and unpredictable, as they tend to act on their whims and follow their own agenda without consulting others. They may also be detached and aloof, which can make them seem cold or indifferent.

Some examples of Aquarius entrepreneurs are Oprah Winfrey ( founder of OWN), Ellen DeGeneres (Ellen Digital Ventures), Thomas Edison (Edison Electric Light Company), and Sara Blakely (founder of Spanx).

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Pisces entrepreneurs are intuitive, imaginative, and compassionate. They have a strong sense of intuition and a creative flair, and they can tap into the trends and needs of the market. Pisces entrepreneurs are also empathetic and altruistic, and they have a genuine interest in helping others and making a difference. However, Pisces entrepreneurs may be too dreamy and unrealistic, as they tend to lose touch with reality and get carried away by their fantasies. They may also be passive and indecisive, which can make them dependent or submissive. Some examples of Pisces entrepreneurs are Steve Jobs (Apple), Rihanna (Fenty Beauty), and Steve Irwin (wildlife conservationist and TV personality).